Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Continued from Monday: "Undisclosed location," infidelity, weight gain, and feeling attractive vs. attracted.

Dear Carolyn:

I do give my wife compliments. She is quite beautiful.

I actually get few in return, hence my not-feeling-appreciated comment (Monday).

It ain't like I don't TRY. I just got sick of trying there for a minute. Lost my bearings.

-- Undisclosed location

That's your cue to try something different -- starting with the truth about how discouraged you feel.

To undisclosed location:

Being told I was too big was actually exactly what I needed hear in order to make changes I knew I needed. Most importantly, I knew I was still loved. I had begun to doubt we were in a relationship at all.

It was handled in the right way (I am worried about you, I love you, I am not attracted to you physically right now) and was a welcome relief because I didn't want my relationship to end.

I also plan to use protien either Optimum 100% Whey (tell me if anyone has used vanilla chai flavor and how it taste) or just use the IDS New Whey 42G its faster protein on the go just really expensive